Find Your Purpose

Your friends and family may not understand why you're unhappy. (After all, your job may be many people's "dream job"!) That's why you can feel very lonely. 

But I promise you're not alone. 

In the past 5 years working with clients from 13 countries, most people I met faced the same problem. 

They're often sensitive souls who intuitively know their career isn't right for them. 

On the outside, they seem fine. They keep up with their tasks and relationships because they're responsible. 

But inside they're dying. 

If this is you, I urge you to stop numbing your feelings, trust the small quiet voice in your heart, and start making change. 

In my professional experiences helping others like you, here are the 4 mistakes that keep you stuck and lost:   

1. Make changes from a place of frustration, not from a place of clarity (Ever seen someone who jumps from job to job for years and still doesn't know what they want? A classic consequence of this.)
2. Lack support. (Your family and friends may judge your desire to change. This fuels your doubts. You need people who believe in you, lift you up when you're down, cheer you on, and guide you along the way.)
3. Think too much and act too little. (This is the perfect recipe to stay stuck. If you wait until you're 100% sure, you'll wait forever.) 
4. Held back by invisible blocks. (One of the biggest blocks is limiting beliefs. Imagine a thick glass ceiling, you can't see it, but it keeps you from going higher. For example, if you don't believe you're good enough to succeed, you'll self-sabotage. You'll procrastinate, you won't be able to bring yourself to take action and don't understand why.)

To find your way, you need to do the opposites of those 4 mistakes. 

I've created the S.T.A.R principle for you to easily remember:

1. Search Within: First, look within to find inner clarity. Then use it as a compass to make the change. The four things you need to be clear about are your Values (what you need), Passions (what you love), Genius (what you're innately great at), and Mission (what you're here to give to the world). Together, these 4 elements form what I call a Purpose Compass. 
2. Team Up: Find support from 2 specific groups of people. 1: People have the same goal as you; they're your partners. 2: People who have been where you are; they're your guides. You need both. 
3. Actions: Even though you need to start with finding inner clarity, do not dwell on it. Start taking actions based on the clarity you have. Small actions bring extraordinary progress. The more you act, the more clarity will be revealed to you. (You may think that you’re passionate about helping others to develop, but you can only know for sure only by actually doing that.) Actions also boost your confidence. 
4. Release Inner Blocks: When you break through the inner glass ceiling, you'll free yourself to grow. That's why it's essential to transform your limiting beliefs into empowering ones. Once you do so, you'll stop spending all the time and energy sabotaging yourself. Instead, you'll focus on doing your best work!